Spring is in the air, and life is to be lived! I hope whatever it is you are doing, you are enjoying life in the process!
One thing I’ve learned over the last few years, is that we have to take time for ourselves. Whatever that looks like to us. It’s so easy to get consumed in the rat race of running around busy with “LIFE”. Next thing you know, we’re 90+ years old and we’ve missed it all! I’m not missing anymore!
I’m sharing this article today, because I’m migrating from “Adoptee in Recovery” to Pamela Karanova in my online settings. Adoptee in Recovery was born August 13, 2012 when I began my adoptee in recovery journey.
Adoptee in Recovery has taken me some amazing places, and she’s been at the forefront of much of what I’ve shared online regarding my adoptee journey, and all that has come with it. The thing is, now I’m moving past that place and I’m networking into some professional avenues where I’m wanting to represent myself as my legal name, Pamela Karanova.
I’m not sure who is reading this might remember I started writing my memoir about 5 years ago. I had high hopes I would get it finished, and had much of what I wanted to share lined out. Truth is, I had a devastating tragedy happen, and it rocked my world so bad that it paralyzed me. I could barely function in day to day life, let alone continue writing a memoir.
Part of what I was going to share that was the best part of my entire adoption journey, but it turned out to be a falsified lie which caused me to become extremely angry, and hurt and I threw my entire idea of writing my memoir in the trash.
It’s been at least 4 years since I’ve perused this.
In the meantime, I’ve been praying to get to a place where I felt like I could share my story again. I have fellow adoptee friends all over the world, who I would love to be able to encourage and lift up, and share what’s worked for me but there isn’t enough time in the day for me to be able to talk to everyone like I wish I could. It breaks my heart, because I have so much to share with you all. I didn’t make it through this complete nightmare of adoption, to keep it all to myself and not find purpose in the pain.
I also have a blueprint to share with the adoption community as a whole. I want adoptive parents, and adoption agencies, and birth parents to understand the pain and trauma in adoption. The addiction in adoption, the grief and loss and lack of resources for the adoptee community, and their role in that being possible.
I have a wealth of information, and resources, and experiences due to my experience I would like to share with adoptees everywhere, so I have decided I’m going to pick my memoir back up and start writing again.
It’s no doubt my life now is completely different than it was when I started writing my memoir some years ago. Moving forward, I’m working at removing “Adoptee in Recovery” and focusing more on Pamela Karanova. If you see these changes, it’s because I’m working on creating a more professional presence moving forward.
I’m not sure what I will do about my http://www.adopteeinrecovery.com handle (website), but I will not remove it, because it’s a huge part of where I’ve come from, and I want all adoptees to be able to see they aren’t alone so I’m not starting my webpage over, but I might retrieve http://www.pamelakaranova.com and merge the 2 pages.
As most of you know, my life is now consumed with my calling and passion -www.adopteesconnect.com I have a to-do list a mile long, so while I’m away from this blog, I will be writing my memoir, working on Adoptees Connect, and doing my best to enjoy my life in the process. I have 3 amazing kids, a wonderful full time career, and some amazing people in my life who I want to spend my time with.
I wanted to keep you all in the loop, and I appreciate you following my journey this far!
I can’t even begin to tell you how amazing it’s been to read other adoptee memoirs! They have truly brought me out of the fog, and helped me feel so less isolated and alone. I have a huge collection, and I have a great value to each and every one. My hope is, I can write my own story, how I made it through it, and what helped me get to where I am today. The value in advice we give, comes as the most valuable when we have lived experiences to back it up. I have a lifetime of lived experiences, and I can’t wait to share them with you.
The title of my memoir is, “Finding Purpose in the Pain, One Adoptee’s Journey from Heartbreak to Hope & Healing” – Pamela Karanova
Follow along, and I thank you for supporting me all these years!